I was lying in bed in the dark early hours of this morning, unable to sleep. Restless and achy, I landed up in email conversation with my friend Ade on the other side of the world. It was nice to have his cheerful daylight messages to take my mind off things.
Ade is on his way to Cambodia and mentioned that he wanted to visit a newly restored temple complex there. Intrigued, I asked him about it and he sent me this link: http://mekongtourism.org/website/2012/01/cambodias-second-angkor-being-restored-after-800-years/
I idly clicked on it and started reading. Next thing, I was bolt upright in bed, searching through my old Cambodia photo albums. Banteay Chhmar! I’ve been there! It was 2007, just after the area was cleared of landmines. Few Westerners had set foot there before. Finding our way was quite a story! This one is for you, Ade:
It had been a long morning. We’d crossed from Thailand into Cambodia at Poipet, the infamous border town which smells of dodginess and corruption. A border official had already tried to con us each out of an extra 200 Baht visa fee and it had taken a lot of stubbornness and sitting around waiting before he lost interest and returned our passports. The rest of the border-crossers were on their way to Siem Reap on the “scam bus” as it was known, but Emma and I had other plans.
Emma loves anything to do with temples. The older and more derelict, the better! She had read somewhere of Banteay Chhmar, a pile of ancient stones abandoned in the jungle. She was determined to get there and take a look for herself. I was still suffering the blissful brainlessness induced by weeks of beaches in Thailand, so was happy to go along with whatever plans.
In retrospect we were perhaps a little naïve and definitely more than a little brazen! We donned out backpacks and walked out onto the street, asking the way to Sisophon. A tourist policeman stopped us, motioning that he knew where we must go. He ushered us to the bus station and almost convinced us to board one, but we figured out just in time that it was a “scam bus” leaving for Siem Reap. When he realised that we were adamant about Sisophon, he insisted that we take one of his taxis, at a highly inflated price of course! We were having none of it, so headed off down the road again, thumbs stuck out to hitch a ride. We were offered a lift within minutes, but from out of nowhere, the policeman appeared again and a lot of animated discussion in Khmer ensued. The driver, who had been happy at our agreed price, grumbled and drove off instead.
We carried on walking, trying to catch a ride, our policeman companion riding loops around us in an attempt to herd us back to the bus station. On we walked, bartering with drivers along the way. He would ride off a bit, we would negotiate a lift and next minute he’d reappear, pushing up the price again. Irritating mosquito! He wanted his kickback and wasn’t going to let us go without it! Exasperated, we sat down at a roadside stall and hoped that he would go away. We were in no hurry, so after a while he got impatient and seemed to disappear. By this time everyone in the vicinity knew where we wanted to go. Whispered prices hung in the air and the stall owner motioned for us to wait.
A little later, a pick-up truck pulled up alongside the stall. Within seconds and without any questions, we were squished into a small spot of open seat, backpacks and all. It was a tight squeeze, but we were on our way! We made it down the bumpy road to Sisophon, packed in the vehicle like a tin of sardines, while fresh fish slid around on the load-bed behind us.
We arrived in Sisophon, a backwater town, only to realise that Banteay Chhmar was nowhere nearby. We were the only non-Cambodians around. We had come this far; it didn’t make sense to turn around. A friendly pair of youths on motorbikes who could speak a smattering of English offered to help us out. On we hopped, each sitting behind, with our backpacks up front between our drivers’ knees . They took us to the local market where pickup trucks were being loaded for trips, going in the direction of Banteay Chhmar.



We were met with stares, plenty of smiles and offerings of morsels such as roasted crickets. Our scooter drivers acted as our translators, negotiating a good deal on our behalf. This time we settled for places on the back of a relatively empty looking pickup truck. With little verbal communication possible, it was hard to know what we were settling for… Three hours later, it was piled up high with us perched on top; six adults and a child.



We bumped along miles of dirt road, taking turns holding the little boy. Afraid he might bounce right off, I held him close, nestled in my arms. At times, he dropped off to sleep, rocked by the motion of our swaying load. I felt quite stable, sitting in an old car tyre.
We arrived at an insignificant looking cluster of houses. No sign of a temple here! They ushered us off the truck and nodded encouragingly that we were at the right place. Feeling lost and deserted, we were relieved when another pair of young men arrived on motorbikes, just as before in Sisophon! They carried our bags and became our guides, taking us to the hidden treasures of Banteay Chhmar.
Banteay Chhmar… Not just a pile of rubble. A magnificent relic with a palpable spirit, held in the arms of the jungle.









Having been encaptured by the mystery of Banteay Chhmar, we had not yet contemplated the night ahead. It was evening time and we still wanted to get to Siem Reap. Back to reality and the practicalities of travel! There were no hotels or guesthouses anywhere nearby. Our local guides called the only taxi in the vicinity and after much discussion, we understood that he was only allowed to travel certain sections of road. “I want to take you but I can get into big trouble” is what he explained. He could take us as far as Sisophon, but from there we would have to negotiate further.
Understanding our worries of escalating fares, he decided to help us with an onward journey plan. “You cannot be seen by the tourist police, otherwise my taxi friend in Sisophon can’t take you to Siem Reap for a good price.” Having had the experience of Poipet earlier that day, we by this time understood exactly what he meant.
He took us to Sisophon along the bumpy dirt road. From there, we were literally smuggled from one taxi to another, avoiding the vulture-like tourist police eyes. We whizzed off to Siem Reap along the asphalt highway, fluorescent tubes of cricket traps lighting the nighttime skies.